It feels amazing to have time to blog again. I didn’t mean to go on such a break but when life slaps you in the face, you have to do what you have to do & may not have time for the things you want to do. The last 2 months were nothing short of challenging, not because of one specific thing but because of multiple things happening at once including the loss of a family member, keeping information from people, trying to make the decision between finding a different job or grad school, & also being manipulated by people. Because I’m a semi-private person, I don’t want to go too into detail about everything but I do want to share 6 life lessons I learned with y’all below. Also if you’re curious, I decided to go to grad school & will be starting my MBA in August!! So excited and hope you enjoy this post! (P.S. The photos were taken by my friend, photographer Taylor Brodeur.)
- You are your own first priority and no one else’s– This is a quote that I always preach to people but I feel like a hypocrite because I had to relearn this lesson recently. In my particular situation, I’m thankful for my friend/ mentor, Ally, who reminded me to stop worrying about what other people need especially when they don’t have my best interest in mind or it’s bad for me. Instead I should just do what’s right for me.
- Have a strong support group– This is so important because these are the people that lift you up when you don’t feel hopeful or that encourage you and listen to you when you’re cracking. I’m so blessed that I have so many people that I can go to for advice. Whenever I had updates, I felt lucky that I had a whole group of people that cared about me and wanted to know those updates. Definitely helps.
- Everything happens for a reason– My best friend Mariana shared a quote with me that I loved: “Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate us to the place we’re meant to be.”
- Job searching is hard– It takes QUITE a fair amount of time between applying (cover letters are the death of me), waiting on recruiters to contact you, interviewing multiple times/ rounds, etc. It is especially hard to do when you are working full time; I can’t tell you the amount of days I’d apply to jobs until 2 in the morning and then look like an absolute zombie the next day. My advice is that if you want to switch jobs, give yourself 3-5 months for the process and turn on your LinkedIn option of “Let recruiters know you’re open” (so that you might get contacted by recruiters for open positions). One of my mentors also told me that we as candidates look much more attractive while we are employed so don’t quit your job just so that you can do job searching full time.
- Referrals, referrals, referrals– 95% of the interviews I had came from referrals. It seems daunting to text/ call up one of your friends from school that you haven’t talked to in 2 years but just go for it. 99% of the time your friend will be willing to help you out and give you a referral. What I did was text my friend(s) to set up a time to chat about their company and role, had the call, and then at the end of the call asked if they could refer me. If you think about it, you’re competing with hundreds of people for each position and who is the recruiter going to contact first? People with referrals.
- Know your value– Back in school, when I applied for internships & didn’t get them, I took it really personally & was wondering why didn’t people want to hire me when I had a competitive resume and interviewed well. Now that I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to say good riddens to those companies that don’t hire me because they are missing out on how much harder I work than others & how much I can bring to the table. Don’t let a rejection change your perspective of yourself. Also remember that everything happens for a reason (lesson 3) & if you don’t get a job, it wasn’t meant to be.
For this last pic, Taylor literally climbed into a tree to get a bird’s eye view shot. LOL I applaud her dedication to get the perfect photo. Thank y’all for reading this far & hope you enjoyed this post!